Reflection gives me space for understanding. If I don't what to know, I become curious of this challenging feeling. Why? By expanding my understanding of a topic I am able to relate it to other information I carry with me. In finding some understanding I now have a choice. Choices are important. If a line of resistance is present, I ask myself what is making me feel a disconnect? Where do I feel discomfort? If I can identify where resistance is in my body and mind, I can use tools to sit with it. These tools depend varying on the situation, but by utilizing tools I can move through these lines of resistance.
Here are some tools I use when I feel a resistance:
Walking - this helps me move through problems by moving my body to new spaces
Writing - I am able to connect with feelings using language
Art - this often the most intuitive process and the most ambiguous way I approach understanding
Talking - I am able to see the resistance from another point of view
Yoga - similar to walking, I can move my body to find areas of resistance and accept new parts of my practice
Meditation - I use meditation as a "blank canvas" instead of filling the space, I sit with the "empty" space
What is the purpose of utilizing these tools?
By using tools I do not have to stay in a spiral, unless I choose to. If I choose to stay in a space of resistance, I then can sit with knowing it is my choice. If I feel resistance, I use a tool to help me understand and bring clarity. Clarity is important because it provides structure to understanding the deeper connective tissue of the resistance. If I can get to the source of resistance, then I can learn more about myself. What patterns do I want to continue?